I’ve been online noticing a THEME on twitter lately, and I’m sure y’all have too ’cause mufucker’s been flooding timelines out here. There’s a whole lot of “woe is me” hoopla going on. Some olI’m going to die alone if I don’t find that special someone – ol cry me a river face head – ol I’ma get married tomorrow face head ASS.
Someone please tell me what the fucking rush is? Because quite frankly, I don’t understand.
Like . . . I understand we’re getting older. We’re 20-27 years old (at least that’s the age frame of the majority of the people I follow), so naturally we’re thinking about THE BIG PICTURE. I get it. I just don’t get why people are letting the idea of love/marriage consume them. Why force the issue? Why can’t life just happen? You’ll meet that special person when the time is right. For now, focus on YOU, and getting your shit right. Who knows, by doing so, you make actually stumble into that special someone.
That being said —
I, personally, have found myself plagued by the idea. I’m not even going to lie. But by no means am I in a RUSH to find my wife/ start a family. I’m 24. I feel around this age, we’re still in the process of finding out what works for us. For instance, I’m still in the process of figuring out what I will and won’t deal with in a relationship. What I want vswhat I need, both in a relationship and a woman —– while at the same time still trying to figure MYSELF out.
Many of us are in limbo in a sense —
Meaning, we just graduated from college, or just started working a REAL job, or just started graduate school, or — you get the point. It’s a hectic time to say the least—an unstable time. It’s okay to take time to ground yourself.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying you can’t do this in a relationship . . . what I’m saying is . . . don’t sell yourself short getting caught up in the IDEA of love. i.e. Don’t settle. Don’t grab a hold of the first person who gives you some play, call yourself in love, and decide not to let go. If you genuinely feel like you’ve found that ONE, that’s fine, but morrreeee than a few of y’all haven’t. You’ve just found SOME-onewho you decided was descent enough to deal with. That’s stupid.
If you’re fucking with someone — yall’s arguing all the time, or the nigga hits you, or that bitch is dumb, or whatever the fuck. RIDE OUT. And chalk it up as an experience.
Your mate should be your best-friend. They should be down for you no matter what happens. They should make you laugh. Smile. Blush. They should rub your got damn feet and shoulders. You should be able to talk to that person about anything and everything;they should make you feel like the most special mufucker walking. I mean . . . this IS the person you call yourself wanting to spend the rest of your life with o_O.
So why rush?
Every move we make at our age (20-27) should be strategic. Beneficial. If it’s not, what exactly are you doing?
IN SUMMARY, CAUSE I ENDED UP GOING ON A GOT DAMN RANT THAT LACKED HELLA DIRECTION LOL
- Don’t trip about love. It will find you . . . aslong as you’re not wack as fuck.
- Don’t settle for any nigga/bitch that gives you some attention. That’s just dumb.
- Even if you DO find that ONE person right now — WAIT to get married. It’s a hell of a lot easier to break up when your lives aren’t intertwined. Divorce is messy as a epileptic fat kid eating spaghetti.
- It’s okay to have experiences. How do you know what you want/need in a significant other/relationship if you haven’t found out what you DON’T want/need?
- Fuck bitches. Get money.
Later days — MicRNS
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